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Tuesday, February 02, 2021

Chapter 2, Page 2, Book 21




Advice is like snow - the softer it falls the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind.

Samuel Taylor Coleridge 

February 2nd - never give advice unless someone asks you for it.



Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didnt.

Erica Jong

I appreciate advice from those that are wiser than me.  They’ve learned from experience the best way to  do things.  It doesn’t always mean I’ve always taken their advice.  Sometimes I just have to learn something for myself.  

When someone we know is having a problem, we often step in with pieces of advice for them.  We want to help them to fix their problems.  But we don’t always understamd their circumstances, so our advice goes in one ear and out the other..

It’s not easy to take the adice of others.  Most of the time people doen’t really want advice, they only want someone to listen them.  They need a shoulder to lean on. Sometimes talking through a problem will be enough to give them what they need to solve their own problems.

My advice is to give no advice, but be a friend and listen. We don’t have to be the one with all the answers we just have to listen and be there for them. People will often solve their own problems by themselves.



The only thing to do with good advice is to pass it on, it is never any use to oneself.

Oscar Wilde




5 comments:

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Pass ist on !

jack69 said...

You sure got this one right: Most of the time people doesn’t really want advice, they only want someone to listen them. They need a shoulder to lean on...................
I am leery of the one who ALWAYS has the answer, and quick to give their advice. Good stuff and thinking.
Sherry & jack in rainy cool, NC

Mevely317 said...

"We want to help them to fix their problems." Yep.
Being a good listener -- and waiting to be asked -- are certainly valuable traits.

Susan Flett Swiderski said...

Anyone who's ever received it knows how unwelcome unsolicited advise can be. And wise mothers who dearly WANT to offer advise to their grown children appreciate the importance of keeping their thoughts to themselves until they're asked for them. Everyone needs a sounding board from time to time, but that doesn't mean they're seeking answers. All they may need is a willing ear and a shoulder to cry on.

Martha said...

This is so true Ma, loved this post!