It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

Author Unknown

Saturday, June 11, 2016

Chapter 6, Page 11, Book 16

Self Control

I've heard it said don't go to bed
while hanging on to sorrow,
you may not have the chance to laugh
with those you love tomorrow.

You may not mean the words you speak
when anger takes its toll,
you may regret your actions
once you've lost your self-control.

When you've lost your temper
and you've said some hurtful things,
think about the heartache
that your actions sometimes bring.

You'll never get those moments back,
such precious time to waste,
and all because of things you said
in anger and in haste.

So if you really love someone
and your pride has settled in,
you may not ever have the chance
to say to them again....

I love you and I miss you,
and although we don't agree,
I'll try to see your point of view,
please do the same for me.

Author Unknown

June 11th- When angry, count 10; when very angry, 100.

For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness. 

Author Unknown

Anger is an emotion often characterized by feelings of great displeasure, indignation, hostility, wrath and vengeance. Many times, reacting in anger is how we express our dissatisfaction with life.  Anger is wanting things to be different than they are. 

It is always best to think before you speak.  In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.

When anger gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems...problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.

All anger, regardless of its cause, has the same effect on our lives. It upsets us, causing us to feel pressure. Keeping anger locked inside and pretending it doesn't exist can even be dangerous to our health. Most of the time we’re only hurting ourselves, and the person who angered us isn’t even aware of it. So we must take responsibility for our anger and learn to deal with it. Process it and bring closure to it, and that will relieve the pressure.

It has been suggested that when you are angry you  grab your pillow and hit it... Do something physical... Dig weeds in your garden... Sing along with your favorite music. Make sure the volume is turned way up.  Eat some ice cream... Try to find the humor in the situation...


 Often this letting go is difficult to do because iit means we must be willing to let go of feeling right and justified. But there just isn’t enough space in the same room for both compassion and anger to co-habitate. Somebody’s got to pack their bags and move out.

You can be bitter or better, it's up to you! If you're mad about something, instead of letting it ruin your life, turn it into something good.

People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing. 

Will Rogers


betty said...

I liked that quote from Eleanor Roosevelt and then the one from Will Rogers. There is righteous anger and that's a good one to have if people direct it in the right way, but the anger that gets us into trouble with our mouths and our actions is something we need to learn how to control and control it early in life. I like the saying "the best gift I can give you is the gift of silence" when upset about something; better to be quiet and work through the anger than say something you'll later regret.


shortybear said...

you always bless me.

Mevely317 said...

That last paragraph of Anonymous's poem is especially good in these times of political and social unrest.

Gosh, I wish I'd read these tips a few days ago. Without knowing the whole story, my boss unfairly lit into me Thursday morning ... so much so that I came close to walking off the job -- totally out of character for uber-responsible me. Later she said, "Totally my fault", but I still LET her words ruin my whole day. Now, whose fault was that. LOL!

jack69 said...

It is bad enough when you are right and are misunderstood, very hard to hold the anger.
Much more embarrassing when you realize later, YOU were actually in the wrong. OUCH.
Very good entry, I love the opening poem, I have never read it.


I think this sums up the problem, "Keeping anger locked inside and pretending it doesn't exist can even be dangerous to our health."