It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

Author Unknown

Friday, October 31, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 31, Book 14

Your life is the fruit of your own doing. You have no one to blame but yourself.

Joseph Campbell

The blame game...

So often we blame our issues on someone else!  We say things like: Life would be so much easier if my spouse would stop being so irritating. And that annoying coworker! If she would just shape up, I wouldn’t get so mad. While we’re at it, I wish my neighbor would stop showing off his new car. You know, I would be so much happier if I had one too.

At the end of the day, you are solely responsible for your success and your failure. And the sooner you realize that, you accept that, and integrate that into your work ethic, you will start being successful. As long as you blame others for the reason you aren't where you want to be, you will always be a failure.

Erin Cummings

Some people panic when they lose control of a situation and so they try to restore the sense of being in control by blaming others. So behind the act of blaming others fear might exist.  People who blame others usually try to hide their feelings of helplessness. If they didn’t blame anyone they would admit that they are not in control and that there is nothing they can do.

I learned a valuable lesson a long time ago and that is the fact that I am not in control.  I’m really thankful that I haven’t been assigned the job of managing the universe.  I have all I can do most days to keep myself on track.  

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go.

 Dr. Seuss

Blaming others for our unhappiness breaks apart families, churches, communities, and nations. We can’t make peace because we’re preoccupied with placing the blame. If something happens that I don’t like, I’m not going to start blaming someone else.  It’s up to me how I’m going to react to any given situation and blame is not going to be what I choose.  

When the house is dusty, dirty and needs a good cleaning, I can’t blame the kids, they are gone.  I can’t blame the cat, she’s gone too.  The dogs passed away several years ago and the bird too.  There is no one to blame but myself.  If something goes missing the same thing applies, and heaven only knows where that safe place I put something is.  It’s so safe I can’t find it.

Concern yourself more with accepting responsibility than with assigning blame. Let the possibilities inspire you more than the obstacles discourage you.

Ralph Marston

Thursday, October 30, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 30, Book 14

The Scariest Monsters Are the Ones That Lurk Within Our Souls

 Edgar Allan Poe

Fear can be a terrible thing.  We all have our inner demons and sometimes they become out of control.

 It seems to me that the famous claim: the only thing we have to fear is fear itself,  isn't quite applicable in this day and age .  We do live in a world with terrorist attacks and car crashes and all sorts of other terrible things. Despite all of this though, here are just a few things you shouldn't actually be scared of.

The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear, and the oldest and strongest kind of fear is fear of the unknown.

H. P. Lovecraft.

Being home a lone shouldn’t be a scary thing.  Our homes are our refuge from the storms of life.

One need not be a chamber to be haunted;
One need not be a house;
The brain has corridors surpassing
Material place.

Emily Dickinson

We shouldn’t fear failure.  It’s by our mistakes that we learn the best lessons

Don't be a scaredy cat.

I hope you all have a Safe and Happy Halloween!  

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 29, Book 14

Life:  Getting through the tricks and enjoying the treats or... the trick to the treats

Life is pretty simple: You do some stuff. Most fails. Some works. You do more of what works. If it works big, others quickly copy it. Then you do something else. The trick is the doing something else.

Leonardo da Vinci

Quick Tricks to Feel Better Instantly

Wash your hands and face, and brush your teeth and get that fresh start feeling


Go outdoors – Get some fresh air 

Listen to your favorite music

Have a good laugh - watch a funny video clip or read your favorite comic strip

Notice what’s right -  stay positive, appreciate the pleasant outcomes, and learn from the rest.

There isn't a single human being who hasn't plenty to cry over, and the trick is to make the laughs outweigh the tears.

Dorothy Dix

Life is full of tricks and sometimes treats too.  We don't need Halloween to inspire trick or treating. Surprises happen all the time. Trick. Unexpected gifts come each day. Treat.

Life is full of ups and downs. The trick is to enjoy the ups and have courage during the downs 

Carson Kolhoff.

Life is sweet.  Enjoy a treat!  Enjoy yourself as much as possible.  Pretty soon we’ll be asking ourselves, How did it so late so soon.  Take time to love, laugh, cry, learn, and move forward.  Life is shorter than it often seems.  

The trick is to be grateful when your mood is high and graceful when it is low.

Richard Carlson

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 28, Book 14


I saw this catchy phrase above in one of the daily reflections I read.  So I thought I’d write a little on problems today.

A problem well stated is a problem half solved. 

Charles F. Kettering

Did you ever go through a day when you knew that something wasn’t quite right but you couldn’t quite lay your finger on it?  Discovering what is the problem is not always easy.  Sometimes we don’t even want to admit that there is a problem.  No problem.

'I must do something' always solves more problems than 'Something must be done.’

Author Unknown

You can't solve a problem until you admit you have one.  Instead of admitting something's seriously wrong, we use euphemisms such as merger, restructuring, and transition, salvaging, and deterioration.

It’s hard to admit we have a problem… to know what the problem is.

Life's problems wouldn't be called hurdles if there wasn't a way to get over them

Author Unknown

Truth is that we all have problems of some sort and they don’t go away no matter how hard we might try to deny them and pretend they aren’t there.  I’ve found that I really don’t have much control over a lot of things, but I can  control my attitude to whatever happens in my life.  And when the big problems arise, I usually turn to prayer.  The good news is that prayers do work.

The best angle from which to approach any problem is the try-angle. 

Author Unknown

It’s not that we shouldn’t try to do something about our problems, we have to try.  It’s when our trying doesn’t work that we need some extra help.  We should never be ashamed to ask for help, whether it’s from a friend or through prayer.  

The best way out of a problem is through it. 

Author Unknown

Monday, October 27, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 27, Book 14

Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory. 

Dr. Seuss

It is very true that we often don’t appreciate some thing or someone until we no longer have it.  I love having a picture album on my computer as those pictures jog my memory.  Special celebrations, people and places are right there.  Seeing some thing or someone ’s picture brings back a good feeling all over again.  It refreshes my memory.  It’s like doing it all over again for the second time.  

Winter must be cold for those with no warm memories.

From the movie An Affair to Remember

Often in life we forget the things we should remember and  remember the things we should forget.  I try to savor and save the good memories.  I try to treasure memories of hot summer days and air conditioned nights so that when like bad things happen, like winter time, I can remember.   I can say, Thanks for the memories !

When we lose someone dear to us. Be it a friend, a spouse, o child or a pet  all we can do to soften the loss is to keep the memories fresh of the good times we did have with them. We just need to be thankful for what ever time we had.   And I think when you have good memories to hang on to, we can change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.

So long as the memory of certain beloved friends lives in my heart, I shall say that life is good.

Helen Keller

Sunday, October 26, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 26, Book 14

An extra yawn one morning in the springtime, an extra snooze one night in the autumn… We borrow an hour one night in April; we pay it back with golden interest five months later

Winston Churchill

For me the clock change that is mandated by the end of daylight saving time is really the marker that a change in seasons has happened.  One week from today, Sunday, November 2nd,  daylight savings time officially ends and we go back one hour to standard time.  

I’ll be glad to get that hour of sleep back that was taken away in the Spring. It is  really not the acute shift in the clock that is the problem in the fall. It is all the short, gray days ahead and the long periods of darkness.   For a very few weeks after the time changes it’ll be daylight one hour earlier than we’ve grown used to, but it will also be dark one hour earlier too.  That doesn’t last long at all, but it is appreciated while it’s here.  As we shift into the cold, dark season, I’ll be trying to get as much light in the morning and throughout the day as possible, 

One of the gifts of the autumn time change is that, for some people, it encourages an earlier bedtime which allows the body added rest and repair time.  Our bodies do need that.  An extra hour, even if just for one day of the year, should be valued and used wisely.  And, what better way to use this extra hour than for some much needed self pampering.

It’s so very difficult to believe that October is almost over and very soon November will be here.  I thought that summer went by fast but I think September and October were in the running for first place.  

The leaves have completely fallen from the tree in the front curb lawn and many others are looking pretty bare too.  It’s time to make our homes the haven from the cold.  Good smells in the kitchen and cozying up with a good book.  

I hope those October eves  have treated you well, and cheers to what's to come.

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 25, Book 14

The Value of a Smile

A Smile is nature's best antidote for discouragement.

It brings rest to the weary, 

Sunshine to those who are frowning, 

And hope to those who are hopeless and defeated. 

A Smile is so valuable that it can't be bought,
Begged, borrowed, or taken away against your will. 

You have to be willing to give a Smile away,
Before it can do anyone else any good. 

So, if someone is too tired or grumpy to flash you a Smile,
Let him have one of yours anyway. 

Nobody needs a Smile as much,
As the person who has none to give.... 

 Smile your smile for today...
Pass it on to someone...
Who needs some sunshine on a cloudy day... 

No matter how bad it seems at the time,
It shall pass in a few moments,

 A Smile is simply a frown upside down... 

So, stand on your head and look in the mirror... 

Once you see how silly you look... a frown turns into Smile...

Author Unknown

One of the blogs I read is Jack’s Shipslog.  He left a comment here on my blog last week that said:  We learned a tradition in Key West. Every evening for years folks would go to Mallory Square, a great view for the sunset. Soon folks were clapping as the sun set, just as they would after a great play or song. Now it is a great festival EVERY clear night, smiling and applauding at the beautiful sunset. 

I'm so glad my window looks east into the sun rising.... It's so splendid to see the morning coming up over those long hills and glowing through those sharp fir tops. It's new every morning, and I feel as if I washed my very soul in that bath of earliest sunshine. 

L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables

Well here at my house I’ve been smiling and applauding the sunrises here.  At this time of year the sun rising is a very special event.  I know it rises every day,  but actually seeing it is a cause for celebration for sure. Makes me think there is a party going on in the sky.  

Truly, were I every evening to depict sunrise, and every morning to see it, still I should cry, like the children, Once more, once more! 

Jean Paul Friedrich Richter

 We are entering the cloudy seasons of late fall and winter.  We really do have more cloudy days than not, and my little Happy has had a very slow time of it trying to  started each day, flapping his leaves here.  It’s often close to 10 o’clock before they move.  It doesn’t take the sun shinning to make them move, but it does take brightness in the sky.   Happy is solar operated for those that don’t know and flaps his leaves with the sunshine.

Needless to say I’m much like Happy, starting slow too.  I’m so thankful for days that sun shines!


Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves. 

James Matthew Barrie

Friday, October 24, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 24, Book 14

Before the reward there must be labor. You plant before you harvest. You sow in tears before you reap joy.

Ralph Ransom

The labor of love is work done for the sake of one's own enjoyment or of benefit to others rather than for material rewards.  We all do things we don't necessarily like all in the name of love.

It is amazing and humbling to think about all the things we do for our family out of love. We make sacrifices day in and day out for them.  Love makes us do things we never thought we were capable of.  Some called it a labor of love. 

Work is love made visible.

Khalil Gibran

Love can move us to tears, weeping for all the joy we have discovered and weeping for all that we have lost.  True love, after all, is to love someone and expect nothing in return

Love one another and you will be happy. It's as simple and as difficult as that. 

Michael Leunig

I am grateful at the end of each day to have engaged in a labor of love.

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 23, Book 14

But some emotions don’t make a lot of noise.
It's hard to hear pride.
Caring is real faint - like a heartbeat.
And our love, why some days it's so quiet
you don't even know it's there.

Erma Bombeck

Emotions are usually evident.  When I was a young woman someone told me that I wore my heart on my sleeve.  Whatever emotion I was feeling was obvious just by looking at me.  There are many times we identify others emotions by the sounds they make.  The sound of roaring laughter is far more contagious than any cough, sniffle.  

There are times though that silence is the best messenger to convey what we are feeling.  If you’ve ever had someone give you the silent treatment, you know what I mean.

There are times when silence has the loudest voice. 

Leroy Brownlow

I think that love is the most powerful emotions we have.  We talk about love being blind or unconditional.  It can also be noisy or quiet.  There is an old saying that actions speak louder than words and love is shown through the things we do.  

A hug doesn’t make any noise but it sure feels great.

A Simple Hug

There's something in a simple hug
That always warms the heart;
It welcomes us back home
And makes it easier to part.

A hug's a way to share the joy
And sad times we go through,
Or just a way for friends to say
They like you 'cause you're you.

Hugs are meant for anyone
For whom we really care,
From your grandma to your neighbor,
Or a cuddly teddy bear.

A hug is an amazing thing -
It's just the perfect way
To show the love we're feeling
But can't find the words to say.

It's funny how a little hug
Makes everyone feel good;
In every place and language,
It's always understood.

And hugs don't need new equipment,
Special batteries or parts
Just open up your arms
And open up your hearts.

Keep this hug going
Pass it on 

 Author unknown

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 22, Book 14

I've heard it said it all depends upon your point of view.  The happiness you get from life.  And how things look to you.  And the longer that I'm living, I've really come to see that this is just as true a fact as anything could be.

If you always look for sorrow, then you'll have it seven fold.  If you go in search of rainbows, You will find a pot of gold.  If you have no time for dreaming, the days are dark and grey, but with a little bit of hope, your troubles slip away.

Don’t waste your time in sighing, When the world is full of song, Don’t live among the shadows, That is not where you belong. Lift your face and feel the sunlight, Smell the flowers in the wood, And be grateful you are living, …And know that God is good.

Author Unknown

 Life is so much more pleasant and peaceful from an optimistic point of view.  

My point of view is going to be different from others point of view because we live different lives and live in different places.  For instance, wintertime is not going to mean the same to others that it does for me.  That is unless you happen to live in the same area I do and unless you have to shovel your own driveway.

I love it when I happen to find someone that shares my point of view on life and living.  To me its like a feeling of companionship when we know someone else has had those same experiences too.

It’s also hard to believe what others say and do because of their point of view.  I have a very hard time understanding some things they do.  And since understanding is so important, I took the time to look for some ways that can lead us to a better understanding of others.

Things to remember:

We need to remember that people who appear to be mean or hurtful don’t usually do it intentionally. There are exceptions to this, but generally the hurt you feel is a side effect, not the principle cause.

People are forgetful by nature, so don’t assume malice or disinterest if something is forgotten. 

Put yourself in their shoes.  Have compassion for what the other person is going through.  

You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view.

Harper Lee

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 21, Book 14

We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.

Thornton Wilder

Storing up treasures in heaven.  Thoughts to ponder...

 I know some people who, at the end of each day, put all of the change from their pockets into a piggy bank. It may not be a lot of money, but when you add to it every day, it is amazing how quickly it builds up.

Whether we use a piggy bank or a savings account at the bank, it is a good idea to have a plan to save money for unexpected emergencies or when we want to do something special.  Many of us are simply trying to save for a rainy day!  I try to do it.  I put away a little something in case the car breaks down or the plumbing needs fixed.  There is an old maxim that states:  those who fail to plan, plan to fail.

 I’ve learned that we really have no ultimate security in this world.  None of us gets out of here alive, no matter how hard we try.  Our lives are much more than possessions. It is not what we have, but who we are, that truly matters.  One thing we have to be careful of is that the treasure that we are building doesn't become the most important thing in our life. 

Treasures are simply things we value and therefore want to have. We want to find, work for, keep, use and share treasures.  It is not lack of material possessions that makes us poor. Rather, preoccupation with what and how much we have  and how to get more of it that impoverishes us. 

He who lies down upon his bed at night, knowing he has added a nice sum to his heavenly riches that day is far happier than the man who added a nice sum to his bank account.  Do not turn to your bank account or your broad acres to see what you are worth. Look into your character.

Every dime or dollar we give out of love is a treasure laid up in heaven. Every word of praise and thanksgiving to God, every loving thought is laying up treasure in heaven. Every act of sacrifice out of love is adding to our treasure store.  The giving of a helping hand will gain for us a far greater reward.  Being cheerful and thoughtful to someone who is sad and praying for one another will add to our treasure chest. 

 I may never have much in the way of earthly treasure, but try to be faithful each day in building up treasures in heaven.

For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. 

Matthew 6:19-21

Monday, October 20, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 20, Book 14

Before you quit, try. 
Befor you talk, listen
Before you react, think.
Before you criticize, wait
Before you move on, forgive.

Author Unknown

I chose the word BEFORE for my theme today.  It’s a good one to think about so I’ve lots to share

Finish each day before you begin the next, and interpose a solid wall of sleep between the two. 

Ralph Waldo Emerson 

Things we did before the internet:

We went outside more

We talked more 

We used the phone book

We had to wait for an order to be placed over the phone or through the mail 

We bought newspapers and magazines

We went to the library to look up information in reference books or if we had one, we used the encyclopedia

Things to do before making a big decision

Explore the options

Consider who will be affected

Invite others to give their opinions

Don’t let fear make your choices for you

Move forward and used your God given wisdom

When your life flashes before your eyes, make sure you've got plenty to watch. 

Author unknown

Things to do before you get to heaven

Give away something valuable

Reconnect with a long lost friend

Spend an entire day totally focused on the One who gave you the gift of life

Dance with abandon

Banish anything that's preventing you from opening your hands and your heart to others. 

Refuse to retire from life.  

 Share what you've learned. Listen as much as you talk. Ask questions. Encourage. Stay open to God's surprises, and you may learn as much as you teach.

You have to be before you can do, and do before you can have. 

Zig Ziglar

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 19, Book 14

Once we discover how to appreciate the timeless values in our daily experiences, we can enjoy the best things in life.

Harry Hepner

In our busy lives, it's easy to let the small moments of joy pass us by and to always be looking ahead, looking back, looking over our shoulders. In fact, those small moments of joy are the basis for wholeness, fulfillment, and growth.  Happiness awaits us in every moment of each day.  It’s often the little things that mean the most.

Life isn’t perfect, but it sure is good.  When I get up every morning and take a good look around in a way that takes nothing for granted, everything is extraordinary.  Every day is a gift.  Never treat life casually. 

We need to appreciate where we are  each moment of our lives as it’s where we need to be in order to get to where we want to go tomorrow.  Don’t let the past and the future steal your present.

Life is always better when you’re smiling.  Think of all the beauty that remains around you, see it and smile.  Be thankful for all the small things in your life, because when you put them all together you will see just how significant they are.  At the end of the day, it’s not happiness that makes us thankful, but thankfulness that makes us happy.

The three things I’m thankful for today:

2141. for little things that make a big difference
2142.  for Sunday dinner with some of my family
2143. for the sales on meat I found at the grocery store this week

Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy. 

Thich Nhat Hanh

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 18, Book 14

From quiet homes and first beginning,

Out to the undiscovered ends,
There's nothing worth the wear of winning,
But laughter and the love of friends. 

Hilaire Belloc

Color your day with laughter !

Some days it’s easy to smile, other days we have to work at it.

Not to worry, I have some great ideas to help you smile!

Grab your camera and go outside with a mission to capture things that make you happy.

Bake something that has a silly face on it. Really, this is a valid suggestion!

Dress up in clothes you love, just to run a simple errand. When you like how you look, you generally feel good.

Make time to see the sunrise or sunset, and make it an occasion.

Gratitude helps you to grow and expands; gratitude brings you and laughter into your life and into the lives of all those around you.

Eileen Caddy

Create a gratitude list including the smallest details like a fluffy pillow,  and the biggest things like your health and your family.

Laugh out loud. Choose to laugh and keep going

And last but not least, laugh at yourself.  Don’t take yourself so seriously.

There comes a time when suddenly you realize that laughter is something you remember and that you were the one laughing. 

Marlene Dietrich

If that list didn’t give you something to smile about then maybe some of these things to ponder will make you smile…

What hair color do they put on the driver's licenses of bald men?

I was thinking about how people seem to read the Bible a whole lot more as they get older; then it dawned on me .....they're cramming for their final exam.

If it's true that we are here to help others, then what exactly are the others here for?

If Fed Ex and UPS were to merge, would they call it Fed UP?

One way or another I hope you enjoy a good laugh today.

Laughter is the sun that drives winter from the human face.

Victor Hugo

HUGS AND SMILES from me to you !