It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

Author Unknown

Tuesday, February 03, 2009

Chapter 2, Page 3, Book 09

Handling Love
If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her/him, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.
Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.
The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.
Love always has been and always will be a mystery.Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.Don't deny love just only you don't want to be hurt... IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN

Author Unknown


I’m starting this month off with a few things about the heart…most of which will also include things about love. The two do tend to go together. I was listening on the radio today about how young married couples need to read up on ways to keep their marriages working. They need support groups and mentors too.

Wow! I don’t think I ever read a marriage manual, never had a support groups other than my friends and I really never had a mentor.

I had a wonderful marriage the kind that is ‘until death do us part’ and never needed these things either. Sometimes I feel like I must have been living on the other side of the moon.

Now-a-days my love of God, family, friends and home remain my top priorities, just the same as they did then. My heart has suffered a few cracks, but those cracks have mended only making it stronger I think. Love does have a way of doing that.



It is sharing and caring.
Giving and forgiving,
Loving and being loved,
Walking hand in hand
Talking heart to heart,
Seeing through each other’s eyes,
Laughing together,
Weeping together,
Praying together,
And always trusting
And believing
And thanking God
For each other…
For Love that is shared
Is a beautiful thing…
It enriches the soul
And makes the heart sing.

Helen Steiner Rice

‘On Ya’-ma


Kath said...

As in the song Ma."Love is a very splendid thing" I always like to think I give as much love as I am able and would give more if I could.The young ones of today who need mentors etc, obviously do not know what love is.A wonderful posting today as always.Take Care God Bless Kath xx

Hollie said...

Love mentors....who would have thought? What a beautiful entry! Thanks for sharing your photos from the Epilepsy fund raiser. I enjoyed looking at them. It's so cold here this morning....21 degrees with sustained winds around 35 mph & gusting higher at I don't know what the windchill is. Brrrrrr

Oh they found the dog last night...
Have a good day.

BlueRidge Boomer said...

Love todays entry....there is something on my blog for you...

Stay safe and warm....LindaMay

Joan said...

What next will they think of, a love mentor never heard the likes just another way of making money? Have a great day.Love Joan.

Jan said...

Well the manual you didnt read ,I didnt read either ,and we managed and have great familys to prove it ,does that sound smug ,dont mean it to. Sometimes it was hard work wasnt it ? Jan xx said...

Beautiful poem. I think trust is very important, and knowing that person will be there when you need them most.
I have been married forever it seems ..

Anonymous said...

love the pictures of your Mall Walk...and in the "fifty years" hubby I have been together..I think it was mostly "respecting each other"...some days it worked...other days it didn't...but love has a way of overcoming it all...right??? I love your blog makes my day...everyday...God Bless...hugs..Ora

Alice said...

I think you were so blessed to be happily married all those years. I have an award for you on my entry tonight but I see you already have it :)..........

Janie said...

Very interesting entry. Hope you have a blessed week. I have to go to Shirley's funeral in the morning. :) She was 88 and ready to go home. Janie

betty said...

I loved that thing about love you posted Ma, that was something to think about.

I can see the value of having a mentoring couple for a newly married or young married couple. I think the value of a lasting marriage that has endured trials and tribulations helping the young ones, so to speak, to walk through some of these things can be beneficial to help keep marriages together. I also think these days premarital counseling is important too.