It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

Author Unknown

Thursday, December 04, 2008

Chapter 12, Page 4, Book 08

Don't forget to add these emotional gifts to your list for holiday giving. They cost nothing, but are the most precious presents you can give to your friends and family.
They cost nothing, but their effects can last a lifetime.

In our busy world, the phrase "I don't have time to..." has become a universal complaint. Like a growing plant, any relationship between two people can thrive only if it receives care. -While a plant often needs a complicated solution to grow, most human relationships profit from a simple tonic that is called "tincture of time." A chatty phone call to an unhappy friend, or a half-hour visit to an aunt who lives alone can mean a lot, but cost very little.

Most people learn fundamental attitudes and behavior by observing others. Be a good example by handling difficult situations in a mature manner.

Many problems between husband and wife or between friends begin when one person tries to change the other to fit preconceived notions. But did you know that people begin to shed bad habits once they are accepted the way they are?
When we expect people to respond is a positive way, they usually do. But you must let those you love know that you expect the positive.
Helping someone you love learn something new is an important investment in their future happiness. Only by learning new skills can we become fully alive. Sharing our talents with others is a good way to show our love.
Few of us know how to listen effectively. Too often we interrupt or act disinterested when someone else is talking. In an effort to be noticed, we begin to tell our own stories before the other person has finished.
There are people who "wet blanket" the happiness of those around them, while others lead people into finding fun in ordinary events.
Insecurity causes some people to insist on being the giver rather than the receiver. When we let others give to us, and when we accept their gifts in a gracious manner, we may be giving them one of the most important gifts of all. Remember, the joy you feel in giving is felt by others as well.
Too often we tend to smother those we love with questions and demands on their time. Each of us has a need for companionship and a need for privacy. Relinquish some of your natural curiosity occasionally and give those you love the right to private thoughts and unshared feelings.
It's hard to resist the temptation to give unwanted or unnecessary advice and help to those we love. Such advice may unwittingly cripple a person's self-esteem. A Chinese proverb proclaims, "There's nothing more blessed on earth than a mother--but there's nothing more blessed in Heaven than a mother who knows when to let go of the hand."

Most relationships either grow and expand, or be come stale and decline. Self disclosure letting someone else discover more about you--can turn a wilting relationship into a flourishing one. It can also help sustain an already healthy friendship or marriage. Bottling up feelings, resentments and hopes is not only unhealthy; it also deprives others of truly knowing who you are.

Have you ever…...checked your e-mail while talking on the phone? ...tried to drive while shaving, putting on makeup or eating lunch? ...raced out of the house and then remembered you forgot to turn off the iron?
These are symptoms of our hurry, hurry, do-it-faster approach to life
Our Church calendar asks us to slow down during Advent—the very time that our culture presses us to hurry up and crowd more into the days before Christmas
But sometimes we need to step out of time and give the person in front of us our attention
Think of it as Jesus breaking into your life and saying, “Pay attention to me. I’m only here for a short time.”
It’s a pause that gives us a chance to take a deep breath and remember what’s really important
I know from the comments made in my journal that there are a lot of people that don’t celebrate Advent. I hope that my thoughts as they come and go… will help you to reflect upon the reason for the season.
One of the online Advent Calendars gives a recipe for a little snack each day so I thought I share one with you today
Recipe Idea: Peanut Butter Snowballs
1 cup powdered milk
1 cup peanut butter
1/2 cup honey 1 cup raisins
2 cups coconut
Put milk, peanut butter and honey in a large bowl.
Add raisins and squeeze. Shape into little balls and roll in coconut.
Freeze for 10 minutes. Serve
Something quick and easy and could even be done by my Grand’babes’
Christmas Prayer
Robert Louis Stevenson
Oh, us rightly to remember
the birth of Jesus, that
we may share in the songs
of the angels, the gladness of the shepherds,
and the worship of the wise men.
May the Christmas morning
make us happy to be your children

‘On Ya’- ma

A Christmas Reminder:
Don't try to borrow any money from elves......
They're always a little short!


Adirondackcountrygal said...

Slowing down this time of year is hard for me! I will try however!

Hollie said...

I'm guilty of rushing out of the house & then thinking did I turn off my curling iron... The snack sounds great! Thanks for such an interesting entry!

Joan said...

Hi Pam loved you entry today all so very true we are always rushing around at this time of year. Not so bad fo me now being retired I do have time for the first time in my life. Take care Love Joan.

Kathy said...

I think this entry is terrific. I am copying it so I can print it and keep it for future use. You always have such warm and wonderful posts. Have a good day.

Kathy said...

pretty graphics, the candy sounds wonderful,
Thank you.

Jan said...

Time is a good thing to share with people, as I learned when I worked with the elderly, who often didnt see anyone else for days Jan xx

betty said...

I truly agree with you, Ma, about slowing down this season; seems like I wrote a poem about it too, LOL, to remember the reason for the season; I have to say we decided to do Christmas really simple this year and I have absolutely no stress about anything; its so enjoyable rather than worrying about shopping, wrapping, etc. great entry!!!


Sybil said...

Thank you as always for these wonderful words. As Jan say's it is good to stop and share a little time with people at a time like this especially when many feel more "alone" in the rushing world.
God Bless, Love Sybil xx

Ken Riches said...

Thanks for the reminder to slow down and remember what is what and why :o)