It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

Author Unknown

Saturday, May 06, 2006

Self-Concept (Who Are We?)



The LORD says…I have summoned you by name, you are mine

ISAIAH 43:1


Do you know who you are?

We are often shaped by experiences in our lives. Often we think we are less worthy than others. We build up a defense system and try to do what we think others want us to do. We perform to earn approval from others.

Of course this isn’t the way it should be. We have the potential for an ideal personality structure, It is a life long process.



Consider the deep longings of your heart.

God gave you these desires of your heart in order to draw you to Him. We were created to be in an eternally secure love relationship with God

That longing to belong is something we should respect and allow it to draw us closer to God

Early in our lives we develop a defense system to protect our wounded souls.

There are seven major areas in a Woman’s life

1. The spiritual area

We can feel alienated from God if we feel He is angry or disappointed in us
God’s Word says that He loves us He is our loving Father. He wants to love and protect us. As a result we should have a sense of being cherished.

Ephesians 3:17 captures the key

And I pray that Christ will be more and more at home in your hearts as you turn to him. May your roots go down deep into the soil of God’s marvelous love.


We must accept the freedom of God’s unconditional love in order to change our lives.


2. The personal area

If we are spiritually inadequate it spills over into other areas of our lives

There is a difference between knowing God loves the world and experiencing the reality that He loves YOU.


3. The Relational Area

Our relationships with others are affected by our longing for acceptance.

If we have a love relationship with God it will have a profound healing effect on every part of your personality. God takes the center stage in our lives and we can face the reality of relationships with others.

All human relationships end. Sometimes they fail to satisfy. We become angry and disappointed. Human beings cannot supply what God can.


We will be fulfilled because all fullness comes from God. His mighty power will work within us.. We are the beloved children of our Abba God.


4. The Rational Area.

We develop distorted ideas in our belief system if we have no way to discern the truth

5. The emotional area

If we are on the defensive , we are sad, depressed and anxious

6. The Volitional Area

We make choices to gain and maintain acceptance rather than disappoint someone.

7. The Behavioral Area

Our outward expression of life can either be focused on others or on God. If our well being is connected to how others perceive us rather than what God sees.

How can we experience this deep fulfillment and help others to do the same?

If we sink our roots deeply in God’s love our human relationships can thrive. We develop realistic expectations and don’t expect them to meet all our longings.

If we turn to God first we don’t struggle as much with the sense of loneliness.
As we spend time with God, we begin to change. Day by day we find our self – concepts changed by Him.


What a moving lesson. After reading this I have realized more and more the importance of a closer walk with God.

‘On Ya’ - ma

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