It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

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Thursday, October 17, 2019

Chapter 10, Page 17, Book 19


Good advice is one of those injuries which a good man ought if possible to forgive, but at all events to forget at once.

Horace Smith

October 17th - the best advice lies in the eye of the beholder, not yours


Never miss a good chance to shut up. 

Will Rogers

 Sometimes the best advice you can give is not providing any at all. It’s better to be a good listener than to give advice that no one follows.  When someone is having problems, we can't help but reommend a solution, to give some advice.But when people open the door of their confidence, tread carefully. You could jeopardize their trust by jumping in too fast to a conclusion.  When people want to talk to you, it’s because they want to do the talking.  Listen, don’t give advice, don’t take over.  Just listen

Our advice is only useful in one case, when someone asks for it.  Even though our friends share situations they are facing, they don’t mean they are looking for advice.  Don’t jump to  conclusions.  

Listening can be more effective than any advice.  Lending an ear can mean everything and having someone you can lean on is very comforting.


The people sensible enough to give good advice are usually sensible enough to give none.

Eden Phillpotts


8 comments:

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

We have 2 ears and only one mouth. it is always better to listen.

jack69 said...

Your posts are always good, but for now, I would say this is one of your best.
It is another one that is hard to follow but still the best.
My gem in this one is when you said:
When people want to talk to you, it’s because they want to do the talking. Listen, don’t give advice, don’t take over. Just listen.................
That dear lady is sooooo danged true!

Love from NC,
Sherry & jack

Annsterw said...

Agree completely! HA! Annster's Domain

betty said...

I'm reading the book of Job in the Bible now and I'm struck with how his friends thought they were giving him great advice when in reality they were making him feel worse. Good reminder to truly listen to someone, say nothing if you can't think of anything that will help them, and always try to be compassionate when doing with those going through trying times.

betty

Chatty Crone said...

Oh my gosh girl - I love this:
Never miss a good chance to shut up.
Will Rogers

HOW TRUE IS THAT?

Mevely317 said...

Amen! Having a patient, careful listener is a real gift.

Linda said...

I so love my every visit here! You share such wisdom!

Rick Watson said...

I agree with this one Ma. Sometimes when people confide in you, they are looking for someone to listen and not give advice.