It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

Author Unknown

Tuesday, October 15, 2019

Chapter 10, Page 15, Book 19

Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity or registering wrongs.

Charlotte Bronte

October 15th - don’t judge

If you judge people, you have no time to love them.

Mether Teresa

I’ve never been a good judge of people and would never attempt to judge another.  It’s not my job.  I leave that up to someone who knows better than I do.  I believe I am not beter than anyone else just as they are not better than me.  We were all created equally and are equally loved.  We are unique and all have something too offer.  

Judging others, especially for things that do not concern us, only ever makes things worse.  I used to think one of the gals in our circle was very stuck up and thought she was too good to help out when it was needed.  turned out I was terribly wrong and as it turned out she was one of the most down to earth and most helpful people, I’d ever known.  I learned to stop judging , we don’t gain any points for proving we are better than someone else, but can better our life from learning from others.

We judge without even thinking sometimes.  Our opinions are based on our past experiences.  We tend to believe that what worked for one of us, must work for others.  The problem is that after a few experiences we believe we know it all and have earned the right to judge.  We become over confident about our abilities and think lowly of others.  

The important part is to be humble.  Think about it, if you have learned so much from your own experience, imagine how much  more you can learn from others. So take it slowly, make it a point to think at least once before forming an opinion of someone.  It’s a toxic habit we need to stop in it’s tracks.  

Tragedy is that our attention centers on what people are not, rather than on what they are and who they might become.

Brennan Manning


I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Accept others for who they are, treat them as you would like to be treated.

jack69 said...

You hit on a subject that is innate in humans. WE judge, if we are not careful. We file in under 'my opinion' too easily. I do try not to judge, but find myself slipping at times. Caution is always good especially where our finances are concerned. There are CON-MEN out there but in reality they are few. The majority of people are good and well intention-ed, some with more earthly weights that get them down and we must be careful not to hurt them more.
Good one, great subject.
Sherry & jack

Chatty Crone said...

So you never judge people - I try not to judge people but I do at times. You are right though and I hate when people judge me.

betty said...

I must admit in my earlier years I judged a lot of times people and circumstances. Now I try to remember that we really don't know what anyone is going through and it is not really my place to judge them but just to love them.


Mevely317 said...

Guilty! I think it's instinctive, our first impressions/judgements of others. … But far better to give someone the benefit of the doubt. Goodness knows, I'm not the best judge of character.