It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

Author Unknown

Wednesday, February 13, 2019

Chapter 2, Page 13, Book 19

The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image.

Thomas Merton

February 13th - we are what we are

Love me for who I am, not for who you want me to be.

Author Unknown

It took some time, but I’ve learned that you cannot change people, you can only love them.  We have to love them for who they are, not who we want them to be.  

Changing others is beyond our ability.  We cannot change others any more than others can change us.  We are the only ones that can change ourselves, People will change when they decide to change.  We cannot do it for them.

We all have at least one or two people in our lives that we’d like to fix, that we wish we could improve and help.  But wanting them to be different is not within our reach. It’s not our decision to make.

 Most people don’t want anyone else telling them how to live. We have to love then for who they are.  Same goes for each of us we shouldn’t have to change in order for someone to love us. 

Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you. 

Author Unknown


I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

You are special, just the way you are !

Mevely317 said...

… Just the way you are! Didn't Billy Joel rock that song?!

Oh, your first slide cracks me up. And what a message I can identify with! I was just confiding in my friend last week how, for a while in my 20's and 30's, I behaved like a chameleon on plaid … so anxious for people to like me. Don't get me wrong, I still want to be liked (lol), but hope I'm not in any danger of losing my own identity.

betty said...

So true that we can't change people and can only change ourselves. But it is so important to love them and of course to love ourselves and support them should they want to start making changes.


jack69 said...

You hit the nail on the head. I was years LEARNING you cannot 'teach' people to change to your mold. hahaha I think I have learned but at times still try. Some people never see that FACT, no one likes to be told how to live, but we might show them at times. haha
Love this one because you state FACTS as usual

Sherry & jack

Annsterw said...

The only person I can change is myself! Hugs!!! Have a great week!!!


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