It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

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Thursday, January 21, 2016

Chapter 1, Page 21, Book 16

You don’t have to attend every argument to which you are invited

Author Unknown

January 21st - A grudge is one thing that doesn’t get better when it’s nursed.

Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute. 

Josh Billings

Arguments happen. But let’s make sure they are resolved. Grudges are a burden too heavy to carry. I don’t think I’ve ever had a good argument or been the winner of any.  I’ve known a lot of people that were just cruising for an argument, but that didn’t mean I had to join them.  To me they are a waste of time.  Discussions about things are fine, but when they turn into an argument it’s just better to walk away.

To be right, be willing to admit you are wrong.

There are two sides to everything. You can never see both sides until you stop accusing and humbly listen to the other person instead. To solve a conflict, someone needs to be willing to take the blame. 

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger

Proverbs 15:1

 What we say and how we say it not only makes a difference in the reaction we’ll receive, but it also determines whether conflict or peace will result. Many arguments could be avoided and tense situations relaxed if we practiced the truth of this verse.

The next time someone speaks to you in a harsh or angry tone, try to reverse the trend by expressing meekness, quietness of spirit, and loving concern instead

Our loved ones may spurn our appeals, reject our message, oppose our arguments, despise our persons—but they are helpless against our prayers.

J. Sidlow Baxter

Prayer is often the best way to go when things are in turmoil.  Not knowing all the answers or ways to solve our problems, prayer works when nothing else can.

Soft words are hard arguments. 

Thomas Fuller


betty said...

Hubby had a situation at work last week with someone that came into his office complaining about something his department hadn't done. She was "ranting" and "raving" saying she was "very disappointed in them", "very mad", etc. He was just quiet, waiting for her to finish talking and then started working on ways to fix her problem (which it turned out wasn't really a problem, she was just trying to stir something up). Sadly, she's known in the workplace to do lots of that; she must enjoy thinking she can win these arguments and encounters, but sometimes silence is the best gift you can give someone, and of course admitting blame if it truly is one's fault.


jack69 said...

I agreed with you and smiled all the way thru this one from the first line:

You don't have to attend every argument to which you are invited. ......

WE loved that! Neat
I think you guys are getting cold up there. STAY WARM (but close the door! ;-)

jack69 said...

Old Abe said it right: One convinced against their will, thinks the same thing still!

Rick Watson said...

I listened to a book on tape on the way home from New Orleans today and one chapter talked about something similar. What the author said was that often the people who stir things up have underlying issues and if you can simply listen and not get sucked into the emotion, and try to understand what the offending person is lacking or needs, then you can sometimes form a new lasting relationship based on trust and mutual respect. I have a long way to go before I get to this point, but it gave me something to ponder.