It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

Author Unknown

Monday, April 20, 2015

Chapter 4, Page 20, Book 15

April 20th - Stay in love

Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command.

Alan Watts

 Falling in love is not a choice.  To stay in love is.

 Relationships don't coast by on autopilot. They need active effort to keep the love alive. It’s so easy to notice the flaws in others and take the virtues for granted. We need to throw out resentment. Instead make it a habit to express gratitude and overlook their faults. Daily appreciations will help you not lose sight of all the good they do for you. You’ll also get in the habit of focusing on the positive and they will feel loved. 

It's hard to forgive someone who has hurt us. We think of ways we could get even. Sometimes we just want to write the person off and ignore them as if they no longer exist. It's difficult to forgive. And yet the one thing we all have in common is that we have all been hurt by someone else. It may have been intentionally or accidentally, but we've all been there. How we respond is the key.

Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.
Tony Robbins
I've learned the great value of the three F's: forgive, forget and forge ahead

Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.

Fall in Love, stay in love, and it will decide everything.


betty said...

I like those three F's that you have learned, Ma, forgive, forget and forge ahead. That is awesome advice! So true that it is a choice to stay in love and loving someone does take work; that's why I often say love is not just an emotion but an action verb.


Rose said...

It is hard to forgive when someone hurts you so badly.

But, you are right about the three F's.

Excellent post.

Hugs, Rose

jack69 said...

the statement is so right, no choice in the falling but there is in the staying. And a happy life depends on the staying (when possible).

I love the Tulip!


Forgiving takes courage. You are right about the 3 F's. I love this quote from Tony Robbins, "Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach."