It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

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Thursday, April 02, 2015

Chapter 4, Page 2, Book 15

There shall be showers of blessing:
This is the promise of love;
There shall be seasons refreshing,
Sent from the Savior above.

Showers of blessing,
Showers of blessing we need:
Mercy drops round us are falling,
But for the showers we plead.

Daniel Whittle

April 2nd - There shall be showers of blessing—
This is the promise of love

I see heavenly blessings in the smile of a loved one and the beauty of a sunset. I hear them in the roar of the ocean and the laughter of a child. I feel them in the warmth of the sun and the embrace of a friend. I taste them in a refreshing glass of water and the juice of a ripe tomato. I smell heavenly blessings in the scent of a lilac bush and the aroma of bread baking.

People will try to rain on your parade
because they have no parade of their own.

Jeffrey Gitomer

There are all kinds of showers in our lives.  Some are blessings and others we just want to shout out - Rain Rain, Go Away !

Some people tend to dampen others spirits, just like a rainy day.  When we love, we don’t try to take away someone’s happiness, we don’t rain on their parade.  

While we cannot control or change others, we can take responsibility for our own actions, attitudes, and behavior. So how do we respond when people want to rain on our parades?  I found this simple answer : Use The U-M-B-R-E-L-L-A

U = Understand. Make an attempt to understand as well as to be understood. Don't let the other person's difficult behavior preoccupy you; then you can deal with it directly.

M = Manage. Manage conflict while it is occurring. Look for the real issue which is usually found at the root of the problem. Don't allow yourself to be distracted by minor spats or side issues that distract and get in the way.

B = Breathe. Use a variety of stress reducing strategies when you are in the midst of conflict. Try breathing slowly and deeply to regulate stress producing adrenalin. Take a break when conversations get heated, and above all, control your impulses.

R = Respond. Remain calm and act in a non defensive and non reactive way. The ability to be calm in the face of conflict will help you to think more clearly and carefully.

E = Embrace. Go directly to those with whom you disagree or have a conflict. Avoid behind the back criticism.

L = Listen. Be quick to listen and when listening do so carefully. Summarize and check out what is heard before responding. Be slow to judge, avoid name calling, and threatening.

L = Learn. Examine key learnings from the conflict. Conflict, though painful, is necessary for growth and maturity. Ask yourself, What can I learn here? Enter into each conflict situation with a learning mindset.

A = Accept. Conflict is a normal part of life, so accept that it will happen and most likely happen often. The people we find the most difficult are also those who offer the greatest opportunities for growth.

And when it rains on your parade, look up rather than down. Without the rain, there would be no rainbow.

Jerry Chin



This really hits home for me today. I know someone who is always trying to dampen my spirits and rain on my parade. Your UMBRELLA approach is just what I need to deal with it. Thanks.

betty said...

I like that Umbrella; another one I'm going to print out and have handy!


jack69 said...

The Umbrella is neat, but before that YOU seemed to get so poetic. I liked it. YOur take on heavenly blessings.
I am late today. Busy but it was happy work. And working in an OLD house I take time to pause. I am finding in this house, the walls are plumb. the floor is level, only the ceiling, with the beaded board finish is saging but only slightly! It is good to see and appreciate the old carpenter's work.