It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

Author Unknown

Wednesday, April 02, 2014

Chapter 4, Page 2, Book 14



If You Love Somebody

THE ORIGINAL VERSION:
If you love something,
Set it free...
If it comes back, it's yours,
If it doesn't, it never was yours….
THE PESSIMIST VERSION:
If you love somebody,
Set her free ...
If she ever comes back, she's yours,
If she doesn't, well, as expected, she never was.
THE OPTIMIST VERSION:
If you love somebody,
Set her free ...
Don't worry, she will come back.
THE SUSPICIOUS VERSION:
If you love somebody,
Set her free ...
If she ever comes back, ask her why.
THE IMPATIENT VERSION:
If you love somebody,
Set her free ...
If she doesn't comes back within some time limit,
forget her.
THE PATIENT VERSION:
If you love somebody,
Set her free ...
If she doesn't come back, continue to wait
until she comes back …
THE PLAYFUL VERSION:
If you love somebody,
Set her free ...
* If she comes back, and if you love her still,
set her free again, repeat *
THE LAWYER'S VERSION:
If you love somebody,
Set her free...
Clause 1a of Paragraph 13a-1 in the second
amendment of the Matrimonial Freedom Act clearly states that…
THE STATISTICIAN'S VERSION::
If you love somebody,
Set her free...
If she loves you, the probability of her coming back is high
If she doesn't, your relationship was improbable anyway.
THE POSSESSIVE VERSION:
If you love somebody
don't ever set her free.
THE MBA VERSION:
If you love somebody
set her free...
instantaneously...
and look for others simultaneously.
THE PSYCHOLOGIST'S VERSION:
If you love somebody
set her free...
If she comes back, her super ego is dominant
If she doesn't come, back her id is supreme
If she doesn't go, she must be crazy.
THE FINANCE EXPERT VERSION:
If you love somebody
set her free...
If she comes back, its time to look for fresh loans.
If she doesn't, write her off as an asset gone bad.
THE MARKETING VERSION:
If you love somebody
set her free...
If she comes back, she has brand loyalty
If she doesn't, reposition the brand in new markets.

Author Unknown 

You will never soar with eagles if you spend all your time with turkeys.

TODAY'S FOCUS

Give up pettiness----become mature.

Love touches the soul and awakens a desire so powerful that even the most vigilant heart is lured by its radiance. 

Jamie Lynn Morris


Love is one thing that I think requires a lot of maturity.  Love is not something to be trifled with.  Love is a life giving force.  It pushes aside isolation and fear and leads us toward connection with others.  Each of us in this life wants more than anything to be loved.

Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you.’

 Erich Fromm 

Immature love is a love that comes out of need, a love born out of our feeling that we are missing something we require in our lives. It is the love typical of young people who marry and feel they lack in some part of themselves. The often feel that love is going to fix everything in their lives.  When you are dependent on this other person to make you feel good and when they can’t, you often move on to someone else who can give you that feeling.

Mature love is a love that emerges when a person feels complete and accepts themselves for who they are.  They don’t feel like the other person needs to fulfill what they have not in themselves. They have already grown sufficiently in their lives to have become rounded and whole and they have come to accept their limitations such that they no longer search for it in another.  A mature love is one that precedes the need and feeds it. A mature love relies less on the highs the other person gives us and is more on a partnership that is based on seeing each other’s faults, warts and all.

It’s the same for any relationship.  We must love unconditionally.  We all have faults, but we can’t depend on someone else to fix them.  You can give love to the world around you in anyway you can. Too many having been so long without love, understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes.


Love always seeks to help, never to hurt.

6 comments:

jack69 said...
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jack69 said...

Life is strange. Maturity is definitely not attached to age. Growing up I assumed a person automatically was mature at 18 yrs old, but many are slow to mature, others mature early and do it by loving, and loving life.

Good entry. WE move North today.
Love from South Georgia...

linda m said...

I love all the quotes you posted today. You find such interesting articles to post. They are always so pertinent. Blessings

betty said...

I didn't realize there were so many versions of that "If you Love Somebody" poem; some of them are downright funny (but sad too in a way). I so agree with your thoughts of mature love, Ma, and it is something that develops over time in relationships if people allow themselves to develop the maturity for it. I think sometimes we live in a society where we always expect to be happy, including in love, and we don't want to do the work that requires us to do so.

betty

Carol Z said...

Great post. I especially like the last paragraph and now that I've grown in maturity I can see love as coming to me as I love. Wishes for a terrific Thursday.

TARYTERRE said...

Got a big smile from the "If you love somebody."