It really doesn't matter if the person who hurt you deserves to be forgiven. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. You have things to do and you want to move on.
Mother Teresa of Calcutta felt that each person she met was Jesus in disguise. Just trying to imagine how much differently we could treat people, if we thought of them as she did, is almost impossible for me. She realized that God loves everyone as His own sons and daughters. If someone insulted, slighted, ignored, or devalued was one of my children, I would take it as a personal insult, so why is it so hard to understand that God feels the same way when one of His children is mistreated?
Sometimes as our emotions escalate, our defensiveness increases, and makes our responses sharp and prickly. Misunderstandings happen and before we know it disagreements happen. Feelings are hurt and those are the times we need to forgive and let go. I know what it is like to jump in and say something before thinking about it and having to ask for forgiveness for what I've said in anger or frustration.
When we can remember to say some kind words and not let our own circumstances change what we say, we'll often find that our relationships will blossom and not fade away.
Every one has bad days, I'm not excluded from that one for sure. Remembering that a few kind words could make someones day, I will also be blessed by having fewer reasons to need to ask for forgiveness. I can choose to forgive myself and others. I can choose to be happy.
I don't forgive people because I'm weak, I forgive them because I am strong enough to know people make mistakes.
Giving forgiveness to someone else, may make their burden lighter too.
Have a wonderful Wednesday everyone!