Before you speak, it is necessary for you to listen, for God speaks in the silence of the heart.
MERRY MONDAY/ LETTING YOUR HEART RULE
In my lifetime I've seen and heard and been a part of many arguments. Being a person who always had a short fuse, I know how easy it is to let off steam and say things before we think. Most misunderstandings start that way. I was very blessed to have a husband that refused to argue with me. He would let me stamp my feet and sputter and groan til you thought the house might fall down, but he would never say a word. Bless his soul, he was a good man. I think most of my children take after their dad too. They tend to quietly sit back and rarely argue either.
Although my hubby didn't argue he was very good at discussing things with me and he let me know time and again that I was never to assume he knew what I was talking about either. I literally had to spell things out for him sometimes before he understood what on earth had upset me so much. And by the time I'd cooled down enough to discuss things with him, most of what I'd thought was a huge problem simple solved itself.
A lot of research has been done on problem resolution. Experts say that we need to avoid blame and name calling. We should stay away from absolute statements like always YOU never...or YOU always. But first and foremost they say DON'T let the discussion matter more than your relationship.
Relationships with a husband, family or friends are such precious gifts, that we never want to damage them beyond repair.
I once knew a very stubborn brother and sister that quit speaking to each other for more than 30 years and never resolved their problems. Each of them dying before they could make up. Now I'm praying that in heaven they have found peace with each other.
Remember: There is no right or wrong person in an argument. There's just a need for great understanding and greater forgiveness.
There are certainly no arguments going on around my house today, I refuse to argue with myself, but I DO laugh a lot at myself.
Have a merry Monday everyone!