It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

Author Unknown

Friday, August 05, 2011

Chapter 8, Page 5, Book 11

It is never too late to give up your prejudices.

Henry David Thoreau


There are times in my life when I feel totally free of any prejudices and then there are times that I find myself doing just that - being very prejudiced. It's something I try never to be and as I am a poor judge of people it's a good thing for sure. I'm no saint and I certainly don't expect others to be one either.

I remember one time when I worked with a volunteer on a project and how my initial impression was that she wasn't going to be of much help at all. After getting to know her and working with her for several months I found out that she was really dedicated and gave more than most would. First impressions are not my forte for sure. After I got to know her, I found that person to be trustworthy and a very hard worker.

That is the way most prejudices go. We don't like something because we know little if anything about it. I try to be open minded and learn as much about things as I can so that I don't find myself in the awkward circumstances of prejudice. Awkward because I can say and do things that I normally wouldn't do.

Sometimes we aren’t even aware how deeply rooted our prejudices are. We may think that we relate to people who are different than we are, but in concrete circumstances our spontaneous thought, uncensored words, and knee-jerk reactions often reveal that our prejudices are still there

The Paradox of our Time

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgment; more experts, yet more problems; more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion; big men and small character; steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce; fancier houses but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember to say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember to say I love you to your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind

This was originally written by Dr. Bob Morehead, but has been altered slightly while bouncing around on the internet since 1998

Take the time to love and know others. Have a FANTASTIC Friday everyone!

'On Ya' - ma

Friday resolution: Take time to better understand an idea or person you’ve written off because of your judgmental side


jack69 said...

Off for our fantastic Friday. going looking for some molasses and a little walk in the woods. Hope your day is the fantastic day you plan..
from NC

BlueRidge Boomer said...

Have a Fantastic Friday and a great weekend....


Scrappy quilter said...

You always, always share so much wisdom with all of us. I love coming here and visiting each day. Hope you have a wonderful weekend. Will you be going to the cabin?? Hugs

Pat MacKenzie said...

You are a very wise and insightful person. This is a lovely post.


I try to be open-minded with every person I meet. Life would be pretty boring if we all were the same. Dr. Morehead's piece hit on some interesting points. Thanks for sharing.