It takes hands to build a house, but only hearts can build a home.

Author Unknown

Friday, October 31, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 31, Book 14

Your life is the fruit of your own doing. You have no one to blame but yourself.

Joseph Campbell

The blame game...

So often we blame our issues on someone else!  We say things like: Life would be so much easier if my spouse would stop being so irritating. And that annoying coworker! If she would just shape up, I wouldn’t get so mad. While we’re at it, I wish my neighbor would stop showing off his new car. You know, I would be so much happier if I had one too.

At the end of the day, you are solely responsible for your success and your failure. And the sooner you realize that, you accept that, and integrate that into your work ethic, you will start being successful. As long as you blame others for the reason you aren't where you want to be, you will always be a failure.

Erin Cummings

Some people panic when they lose control of a situation and so they try to restore the sense of being in control by blaming others. So behind the act of blaming others fear might exist.  People who blame others usually try to hide their feelings of helplessness. If they didn’t blame anyone they would admit that they are not in control and that there is nothing they can do.

I learned a valuable lesson a long time ago and that is the fact that I am not in control.  I’m really thankful that I haven’t been assigned the job of managing the universe.  I have all I can do most days to keep myself on track.  

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go.

 Dr. Seuss

Blaming others for our unhappiness breaks apart families, churches, communities, and nations. We can’t make peace because we’re preoccupied with placing the blame. If something happens that I don’t like, I’m not going to start blaming someone else.  It’s up to me how I’m going to react to any given situation and blame is not going to be what I choose.  

When the house is dusty, dirty and needs a good cleaning, I can’t blame the kids, they are gone.  I can’t blame the cat, she’s gone too.  The dogs passed away several years ago and the bird too.  There is no one to blame but myself.  If something goes missing the same thing applies, and heaven only knows where that safe place I put something is.  It’s so safe I can’t find it.

Concern yourself more with accepting responsibility than with assigning blame. Let the possibilities inspire you more than the obstacles discourage you.

Ralph Marston

Thursday, October 30, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 30, Book 14

The Scariest Monsters Are the Ones That Lurk Within Our Souls

 Edgar Allan Poe

Fear can be a terrible thing.  We all have our inner demons and sometimes they become out of control.

 It seems to me that the famous claim: the only thing we have to fear is fear itself,  isn't quite applicable in this day and age .  We do live in a world with terrorist attacks and car crashes and all sorts of other terrible things. Despite all of this though, here are just a few things you shouldn't actually be scared of.

The oldest and strongest emotion of mankind is fear, and the oldest and strongest kind of fear is fear of the unknown.

H. P. Lovecraft.

Being home a lone shouldn’t be a scary thing.  Our homes are our refuge from the storms of life.

One need not be a chamber to be haunted;
One need not be a house;
The brain has corridors surpassing
Material place.

Emily Dickinson

We shouldn’t fear failure.  It’s by our mistakes that we learn the best lessons

Don't be a scaredy cat.

I hope you all have a Safe and Happy Halloween!  

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 29, Book 14

Life:  Getting through the tricks and enjoying the treats or... the trick to the treats

Life is pretty simple: You do some stuff. Most fails. Some works. You do more of what works. If it works big, others quickly copy it. Then you do something else. The trick is the doing something else.

Leonardo da Vinci

Quick Tricks to Feel Better Instantly

Wash your hands and face, and brush your teeth and get that fresh start feeling


Go outdoors – Get some fresh air 

Listen to your favorite music

Have a good laugh - watch a funny video clip or read your favorite comic strip

Notice what’s right -  stay positive, appreciate the pleasant outcomes, and learn from the rest.

There isn't a single human being who hasn't plenty to cry over, and the trick is to make the laughs outweigh the tears.

Dorothy Dix

Life is full of tricks and sometimes treats too.  We don't need Halloween to inspire trick or treating. Surprises happen all the time. Trick. Unexpected gifts come each day. Treat.

Life is full of ups and downs. The trick is to enjoy the ups and have courage during the downs 

Carson Kolhoff.

Life is sweet.  Enjoy a treat!  Enjoy yourself as much as possible.  Pretty soon we’ll be asking ourselves, How did it so late so soon.  Take time to love, laugh, cry, learn, and move forward.  Life is shorter than it often seems.  

The trick is to be grateful when your mood is high and graceful when it is low.

Richard Carlson

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 28, Book 14


I saw this catchy phrase above in one of the daily reflections I read.  So I thought I’d write a little on problems today.

A problem well stated is a problem half solved. 

Charles F. Kettering

Did you ever go through a day when you knew that something wasn’t quite right but you couldn’t quite lay your finger on it?  Discovering what is the problem is not always easy.  Sometimes we don’t even want to admit that there is a problem.  No problem.

'I must do something' always solves more problems than 'Something must be done.’

Author Unknown

You can't solve a problem until you admit you have one.  Instead of admitting something's seriously wrong, we use euphemisms such as merger, restructuring, and transition, salvaging, and deterioration.

It’s hard to admit we have a problem… to know what the problem is.

Life's problems wouldn't be called hurdles if there wasn't a way to get over them

Author Unknown

Truth is that we all have problems of some sort and they don’t go away no matter how hard we might try to deny them and pretend they aren’t there.  I’ve found that I really don’t have much control over a lot of things, but I can  control my attitude to whatever happens in my life.  And when the big problems arise, I usually turn to prayer.  The good news is that prayers do work.

The best angle from which to approach any problem is the try-angle. 

Author Unknown

It’s not that we shouldn’t try to do something about our problems, we have to try.  It’s when our trying doesn’t work that we need some extra help.  We should never be ashamed to ask for help, whether it’s from a friend or through prayer.  

The best way out of a problem is through it. 

Author Unknown

Monday, October 27, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 27, Book 14

Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory. 

Dr. Seuss

It is very true that we often don’t appreciate some thing or someone until we no longer have it.  I love having a picture album on my computer as those pictures jog my memory.  Special celebrations, people and places are right there.  Seeing some thing or someone ’s picture brings back a good feeling all over again.  It refreshes my memory.  It’s like doing it all over again for the second time.  

Winter must be cold for those with no warm memories.

From the movie An Affair to Remember

Often in life we forget the things we should remember and  remember the things we should forget.  I try to savor and save the good memories.  I try to treasure memories of hot summer days and air conditioned nights so that when like bad things happen, like winter time, I can remember.   I can say, Thanks for the memories !

When we lose someone dear to us. Be it a friend, a spouse, o child or a pet  all we can do to soften the loss is to keep the memories fresh of the good times we did have with them. We just need to be thankful for what ever time we had.   And I think when you have good memories to hang on to, we can change the memory of our past into a hope for our future.

So long as the memory of certain beloved friends lives in my heart, I shall say that life is good.

Helen Keller

Sunday, October 26, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 26, Book 14

An extra yawn one morning in the springtime, an extra snooze one night in the autumn… We borrow an hour one night in April; we pay it back with golden interest five months later

Winston Churchill

For me the clock change that is mandated by the end of daylight saving time is really the marker that a change in seasons has happened.  One week from today, Sunday, November 2nd,  daylight savings time officially ends and we go back one hour to standard time.  

I’ll be glad to get that hour of sleep back that was taken away in the Spring. It is  really not the acute shift in the clock that is the problem in the fall. It is all the short, gray days ahead and the long periods of darkness.   For a very few weeks after the time changes it’ll be daylight one hour earlier than we’ve grown used to, but it will also be dark one hour earlier too.  That doesn’t last long at all, but it is appreciated while it’s here.  As we shift into the cold, dark season, I’ll be trying to get as much light in the morning and throughout the day as possible, 

One of the gifts of the autumn time change is that, for some people, it encourages an earlier bedtime which allows the body added rest and repair time.  Our bodies do need that.  An extra hour, even if just for one day of the year, should be valued and used wisely.  And, what better way to use this extra hour than for some much needed self pampering.

It’s so very difficult to believe that October is almost over and very soon November will be here.  I thought that summer went by fast but I think September and October were in the running for first place.  

The leaves have completely fallen from the tree in the front curb lawn and many others are looking pretty bare too.  It’s time to make our homes the haven from the cold.  Good smells in the kitchen and cozying up with a good book.  

I hope those October eves  have treated you well, and cheers to what's to come.

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Chapter 10, Page 25, Book 14

The Value of a Smile

A Smile is nature's best antidote for discouragement.

It brings rest to the weary, 

Sunshine to those who are frowning, 

And hope to those who are hopeless and defeated. 

A Smile is so valuable that it can't be bought,
Begged, borrowed, or taken away against your will. 

You have to be willing to give a Smile away,
Before it can do anyone else any good. 

So, if someone is too tired or grumpy to flash you a Smile,
Let him have one of yours anyway. 

Nobody needs a Smile as much,
As the person who has none to give.... 

 Smile your smile for today...
Pass it on to someone...
Who needs some sunshine on a cloudy day... 

No matter how bad it seems at the time,
It shall pass in a few moments,

 A Smile is simply a frown upside down... 

So, stand on your head and look in the mirror... 

Once you see how silly you look... a frown turns into Smile...

Author Unknown

One of the blogs I read is Jack’s Shipslog.  He left a comment here on my blog last week that said:  We learned a tradition in Key West. Every evening for years folks would go to Mallory Square, a great view for the sunset. Soon folks were clapping as the sun set, just as they would after a great play or song. Now it is a great festival EVERY clear night, smiling and applauding at the beautiful sunset. 

I'm so glad my window looks east into the sun rising.... It's so splendid to see the morning coming up over those long hills and glowing through those sharp fir tops. It's new every morning, and I feel as if I washed my very soul in that bath of earliest sunshine. 

L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables

Well here at my house I’ve been smiling and applauding the sunrises here.  At this time of year the sun rising is a very special event.  I know it rises every day,  but actually seeing it is a cause for celebration for sure. Makes me think there is a party going on in the sky.  

Truly, were I every evening to depict sunrise, and every morning to see it, still I should cry, like the children, Once more, once more! 

Jean Paul Friedrich Richter

 We are entering the cloudy seasons of late fall and winter.  We really do have more cloudy days than not, and my little Happy has had a very slow time of it trying to  started each day, flapping his leaves here.  It’s often close to 10 o’clock before they move.  It doesn’t take the sun shinning to make them move, but it does take brightness in the sky.   Happy is solar operated for those that don’t know and flaps his leaves with the sunshine.

Needless to say I’m much like Happy, starting slow too.  I’m so thankful for days that sun shines!


Those who bring sunshine to the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves. 

James Matthew Barrie